What happened to human-to-human relationships?
I came across this article that really got me thinking about the way we have so much replace human relationships with technological ones. It has gotten so bad now that when a terrible thing is happening the first thing people do is to bring out their mobile phones to take the first picture and the first video.
What has happened to us that we have replaced face-to-face relationship with texting, sending WhatsApp messages, Pinging on BBM and all the rest social platforms?
I had a nasty experience almost two years ago and it got me up about the fact that we have lost the ability to be conscious about our immediate environment except some thing pretty exciting or crazy is going on around us.
I traveled to a city in the United States and I was to just stay a night, my not being so lucky that day started right at the airport. I asked how I could get a taxi to take me to where i was going only to be told that getting a train from the airport is better. Always the adventurer, I concurred and then i went on to ask which of the stations do I get to get off. I was told which one. On getting there i started looking for the place while lugging two bags with me because that was my last appointment in the States and I was heading back home the following day.
I was at this for like 35 minutes as I realized that people were not so conscious of the names of the streets or bus stops of the route they take every day.
I was at it for a while and getting frustrated, but importantly i do not want to miss the appointment that brought me to that city. I eventually entered a store and I was lucky to meet a father and son who told me that I was in the wrong part of the city and i have to go back to the train station and go back the way i was coming from.
Getting to the chase, i missed my appointment because people were not aware of their environment and i also learn a lesson not to ask people but just look for a cab and find my way no matter the price. I was told a couple of times to key in the address to a google map and it will give me the direction. I could not believe this. Where i am from in Nigeria when people see a stranger lugging two bags and is going down the street asking for directions, they will go out of their way to make sure you find where you are looking for.
Technology is great and wonderful, it makes life much more faster and easier, but do we now leave our relationships to technology?
I heard about someone i went to high school with that committed suicide sometimes last year, why? He lost his job and got depressed. I asked is there no one that checked on him and try to assist and make sure he is not feeling the loss of his job? Was taking his life the only solution?
Do observe when you enter a bus or a sub-way or in a coffee shop, 90% of the people present are tapping away at their phones or devices.
When was the last time you picked up the phone to ask how a friend or family member is faring? When was the last time you went looking for a friend or colleague? When was the last time you really did have a human-to-human exchange with someone you’ve seen for a while? It is important because that phone call, text messages or visit might save someone’s life,, make someone happy or give someone hope for a better future.
I leave you with this quote:
“People have entire relationships via text message now, but i am not partial to texting. I need context, nuance and the warmth and tone that can only come from a human voice.”
~ Danielle Steel